(The Turkish Post) \u2013 4 Haziran Pazar g\u00fcn\u00fc 1 milyonu a\u015fk\u0131n 8. s\u0131n\u0131f \u00f6\u011frencisi iyi bir liseye girmek i\u00e7in yar\u0131\u015facak. MEF \u00dcniversitesi Rehberlik ve Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k B\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc \u00d6\u011fretim \u00dcyesi Prof. Dr. Z\u00fcmra Atalay\u2019dan adaylara kayg\u0131yla ba\u015fetmeleri i\u00e7in 5 y\u00f6ntem, ailelere de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na destek olabilecekleri 5 tavsiye geldi…<\/p>\n
\u00d6\u011eRENC\u0130LERE<\/strong><\/p>\n 1- HEYECANINI BASTIRMA:<\/strong> Adaylar\u0131n kendilerini heyecanl\u0131, gergin hissetmeleri do\u011fal. Bu duygudan kurtulmay\u0131 denemeyin. S\u0131nava giren her birey bu heyecan\u0131 ya\u015far, bunun normal oldu\u011funu kabul etmek gerekiyor. Bu duyguyu ya\u015fayanlar s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ve ac\u0131 \u00e7ektiklerinde kendilerini izole etme e\u011filiminde olur. \u201cYaln\u0131z\u0131m, tekim\u201d gibi bir hisse kap\u0131l\u0131rlar. Bunlar\u0131 asl\u0131nda s\u0131nava girecek adaylar\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fu ya\u015f\u0131yor. Yani kendinizi bu anlamda yaln\u0131z hissetmeyin ve di\u011fer adaylar\u0131n da kayg\u0131l\u0131 olabilece\u011fini kendinize hat\u0131rlat\u0131n.<\/p>\n 2- BEDEN\u0130N\u0130 RAHATLAT:<\/strong> Duygular beyinde ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir ama biz onlar\u0131 \u00f6nce bedenimizde hissederiz. Onun i\u00e7in bedenimizi rahat tutmal\u0131y\u0131z. Heyecanland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ya da zorlay\u0131c\u0131 bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda \u00f6ncelikle bedenimizi rahatlatmam\u0131z i\u015fe yarar. Bunun i\u00e7in derin nefes al\u0131p tutun, verirken de t\u00fcm bedeninizin rahatlay\u0131p gev\u015fedi\u011fini hissedin. Her g\u00fcn 3-4 dakika bu egzersizi yap\u0131n. \u00d6zellikle de s\u0131navdan \u00f6nce… Rahat beden rahatzihindir. Zihni bo\u015faltmak \u00e7ok kolay de\u011fil, onun i\u00e7in biz ara\u00e7 olarak bedenimizi kullan\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n 3- EL\u0130NDEN GELEN\u0130 YAPACA\u011eINA EM\u0130N OL:<\/strong> Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z heyecan ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131n\u0131n asl\u0131nda \u015fu anla de\u011fil, olas\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k senaryolar\u0131 ile ilgili oldu\u011funu fark etmelisiniz. Yani gelece\u011fi kontrol edemeyiz ama belirsizlik rahats\u0131z edicidir. \u00d6ncelikle bunun fark\u0131na varmal\u0131y\u0131z. Sonra da kendimize, elimizden gelen her \u015feyi yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hat\u0131rlatarak telkinde bulunmal\u0131y\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, \u015fu anda kontrol edebilece\u011fimiz tek \u015fey elimizden geleni yapmakt\u0131r. Olaylar\u0131 ana g\u00f6re de\u011ferlendirmek en iyisidir.<\/p>\n 4- KEND\u0130N\u0130 ELE\u015eT\u0130RME:<\/strong> Kayg\u0131l\u0131 ve gergin oldu\u011funuz i\u00e7in \u00f6zele\u015ftiride bulunmay\u0131n. Performans\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 etkileyecek diye, bu hisleri ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in korkup kendinize k\u0131zmay\u0131n. Kendinize \u015fefkatli yakla\u015f\u0131n. \u201c\u015eu an zorlan\u0131yorum, bunu hissetmemeliyim\u201d demek yerine, bu t\u00fcr zamanlar\u0131n zor oldu\u011funu kendinize hat\u0131rlat\u0131n.<\/p>\n 5- FELAKET SENARYOLARI YAZMA:<\/strong> Zihninizden felaket senaryolar\u0131 ge\u00e7ebilir… Bunlar\u0131n ger\u00e7eklik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, sadece bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce oldu\u011funu bilin. Her \u015feyin k\u00f6t\u00fc gidece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek sizi olas\u0131 beklenmedik sonu\u00e7lara haz\u0131rlamaz. K\u00f6t\u00fc olursa \u00fcz\u00fclmeyece\u011fim, iyi olursa s\u00fcrpriz olur gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin ya da zihinsel provalar\u0131n faydas\u0131 olmaz. Zihninizi her zaman daha olumlu, pozitif d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceye, yapabileceklerinizin en iyisini yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za y\u00f6neltin.<\/p>\n A\u0130LELERE<\/strong><\/p>\n 1- \u00c7OCU\u011eUNUZU D\u0130NLEY\u0130N, \u00d6\u011e\u00dcT VERMEY\u0130N:<\/strong> \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun kayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 dinleyin, hemen \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bulup \u00f6\u011f\u00fct vermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n. B\u0131rak\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011funuz yan\u0131n\u0131zda a\u011flas\u0131n, kayg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klas\u0131n. Ak\u0131l ve \u00f6\u011f\u00fct vermeden \u00f6nce iyi bir dinleyici olun.<\/p>\n 2- DUYGULAR BULA\u015eICIDIR:<\/strong> \u00c7ocuklarla ebeveynler aras\u0131nda duygular\u0131n bula\u015f\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 rahatlatmak istiyorsan\u0131z \u00f6nce kendinizi rahatlat\u0131n. Sizin i\u00e7iniz rahat olursa, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za da bu rahatl\u0131k bula\u015f\u0131r. Bu; durumu \u00f6nemsememek de\u011fil \u00f6nemseyip gereksiz gerginliklerden kurtulmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n 3- ONA NEY\u0130N \u0130Y\u0130 GELECE\u011e\u0130N\u0130 SORUN:<\/strong> Her birey kendinin uzman\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011funuza \u00f6nce neyin iyi gelebilece\u011fini, ona nas\u0131l yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilece\u011finizi sorun. Ebeveynler, \u00e7ocuk kayg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yard\u0131m edemiyorum diye \u00e7aresiz olduklar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ve bu do\u011fald\u0131r. Ama \u201cSana nas\u0131l yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilirim?\u201d sorusu hem size hem \u00e7ocu\u011funuza yard\u0131m eder.<\/p>\n 4- SINAV, KAR\u0130YER HEDEFLER\u0130N\u0130 KONU\u015eMAYIN:<\/strong> S\u0131navdan k\u0131sa bir s\u00fcre \u00f6nce s\u0131nav\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131, olas\u0131 puanlama, tercihler, kariyer hedefleri hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fmay\u0131 bitirin. Asla \u201cDaha \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsayd\u0131!\u201d \u015feklinde su\u00e7lamalarda bulunmay\u0131n. \u00c7ocu\u011fun \u00f6n\u00fcne son dakikada hedef koymak onu motive etmez. Ayr\u0131ca \u201cSana \u00e7ok inan\u0131yorum\u201d gibi a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 beklentiler de iyi gelmez. A\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcven pompalamak \u00e7ocuk \u00fczerinde bask\u0131 olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n 5- \u015eEFKATLE YAKLA\u015eIN:<\/strong> Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te \u00e7ocuk zorlanabilir. Ona ac\u0131madan fakat duyarl\u0131 ve \u015fefkatli bir \u015fekilde yakla\u015f\u0131n. Empati kurun. Zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etti\u011finizi anlas\u0131n. Ama \u00e7ocu\u011funuza bu durumun s\u0131nav s\u00fcrecini payla\u015fanlar a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan ortak bir zorluk oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131n. Kendinizin de ge\u00e7mi\u015fte birtak\u0131m s\u0131nav ve de\u011ferlendirmelerden \u00f6nce zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, kayg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlat\u0131n. Bunun ge\u00e7ece\u011fini bildi\u011finizi s\u00f6yleyin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" (The Turkish Post) \u2013 4 Haziran Pazar g\u00fcn\u00fc 1 milyonu a\u015fk\u0131n 8. s\u0131n\u0131f \u00f6\u011frencisi iyi bir liseye girmek i\u00e7in yar\u0131\u015facak. 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